The Stepfamily Foundation of Alberta 
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Communication Barriers 
If it’s a barrier for one, it’s a barrier for both.

Instructions—Part A: Together, check off all of the items that each of you regard as barriers to your being able to communicate effectively. Use the spaces at the end of the list to add any additional barriers.
qBad timing (e.g., tired, hungry, not fully awake, just home from work, etc.)
qInsufficient time to address the issue adequately
qLanguage use barriers (e.g., disrespectful, provocative, etc.)
qFailure to verify or re-verify the accuracy of information communicated
qIndirect communication
qDistractions
qEmotional overlay (e.g., anger, fear, etc.)
qBaggage (i.e., old issues implicated)
qExpectation of poor communication based upon a history of ineffective communication
qGender differences
qInformation omitted (e.g., half truths)
qIn the company of others
qFailure to manage “nonverbals” (e.g., tone of voice, posture, gestures, eye rolling, etc.)
qKitchen sinking (throwing in everything but the kitchen sink)
qDisorganized information (i.e., lack of clarity regarding what you wish to communicate)
qNo regular time for addressing issues of concern
qFailure to set time limits on the discussion of an issue
qFailure to specify a time to return to an unfinished issue

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Communication Solutions 
Instructions—Part B: In the space below, state what you will do, as a couple, to set the stage for better communication. Keep in mind that it’s only a solution if you both agree to it, agree to abide by it, and DO it.

Our Solution: _________________________________________________________________

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